tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2567913902092044012.post4302888369130522658..comments2023-03-22T17:09:22.880-07:00Comments on swell: not comingreasonably prudent poethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04553993541841706695noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2567913902092044012.post-87765810558061448402008-06-14T04:33:00.000-07:002008-06-14T04:33:00.000-07:00performance anxiety is not a problem anymore...but...performance anxiety is not a problem anymore...but like I said after 9 years, we have learned to work around the issue...she has been understanding, and I have been gentle in explaining that everything is ok and nothing is being done "wrong"...and thank god we haven't experienced LBD yet :)Big Wiggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00332198170642088104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2567913902092044012.post-31763756065160524172008-06-12T20:32:00.000-07:002008-06-12T20:32:00.000-07:00big wiggy -- oh god, the performance anxiety. yes...big wiggy -- oh god, the performance anxiety. yes. that sucks. fortunately i don't have it with mera b/c she's generally not trying to make me come. i've definitely had it in the past. the worst is the worry that the other person is growing to resent you as they spend SO MUCH TIME pumping your clit. it sucks. maybe i'll write a whole post about it, actually...<BR/><BR/>scg -- i think being comfortable with my body was one result of lots of masturbation, which has definitely helped me to have more fun with sex. but i'm not convinced that early childhood masturbation didn't contribute to my "learning" to come from only one kind of stimulation and, therefore, getting stuck in a rut. it's like i've read in sex advice columns for guys, they're encouraged to vary their masturbatory techniques so they won't get too attached to a particular speed, style, etc. if it applies to them, why shouldn't it apply to me?reasonably prudent poethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04553993541841706695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2567913902092044012.post-31777239701939102492008-06-11T19:27:00.000-07:002008-06-11T19:27:00.000-07:00i know what you mean, like sometimes with partner ...i know what you mean, like sometimes with partner sex if you are trying to come then you are too focused on what you are doing and not so much on the fact that you are in communion with another person. and i know how hard it is to try to explain to another woman "I'm not concerned about getting off, i just want to feel YOU," hard to make her listen and understand that she is doing everything right.<BR/><BR/>i wouldn't worry if i were you that learning to pleasure yourself spoiled you or anything, it is the people that don't do that and don't learn about themselves that don't know how to have pleasure. i think you helped yourself enjoy sex more if anything.south carolina boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04210030182965502233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2567913902092044012.post-87242766057694101942008-06-11T09:44:00.000-07:002008-06-11T09:44:00.000-07:00thanks for the welcome...this was a pretty big iss...thanks for the welcome...this was a pretty big issue in the beginning of our relationship. she would always say..why can't you come, am I not doing it right...etc, etc..I am sure you have heard it as well. It became a mental block and gave me severe "performance anxiety"...not such a big deal anymore..but then again after 9 years...hang in thereBig Wiggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00332198170642088104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2567913902092044012.post-78628705497556590962008-06-11T09:05:00.000-07:002008-06-11T09:05:00.000-07:00welcome into the light, big wiggy!sorry for the co...welcome into the light, big wiggy!<BR/><BR/>sorry for the confusion. no, i definitely don't equate orgasms with squirting. that was just mera's overstatement of her case. not only does she expect to be giving me a thousand orgasms a day, she also expects me to have started squirting by now...reasonably prudent poethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04553993541841706695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2567913902092044012.post-62304286408795221082008-06-11T06:09:00.000-07:002008-06-11T06:09:00.000-07:00de-lurking and confused..do you equate "squirting"...de-lurking and confused..do you equate "squirting" for lack of a better term, as an orgasm? I had a partner who could make me squirt at the drop of a hat, and I can make myself do it as well. My partner of 9 years has accomplished it a few dozen times, but if I don't squirt, I still have an orgasm and the sense of relief and ecstasy...I just don't have the "official" ejaculation...does what I am saying make ANY sense?Big Wiggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00332198170642088104noreply@blogger.com