Sunday, April 13, 2008

smut

I don't know about you, but I like porn. It's hard to say "I like porn" without adding a lot of qualifiers. Like, I like porn but usually just guy-on-guy porn because women in porn tend to look so exploited. Or, I like porn but only occasionally. Or, I like porn but for some reason I don't always feel so good about it.

It's complicated. Some people are appalled by it, and I can think of plenty of appalling things about the porn industry. However, at it's very core, porn is nothing more than depictions of sex or sexuality engineered to turn you on. What's not to like about that?

For me, I like the naked bodies, the titilation of the voyeurism, the "intimacy" with strangers, and the sex. I gravitate towards porn with a kinky story-line or amatuer stuff made by real people. I'm interested not just in the facade of the porn, I'm interested in the actual people behind it all. What are they thinking? Are they really enjoying it or is it just a job that pays the bills?

When I was living in Columbus, I dated a woman who did phone sex. She was a radical, anarchist, punk-rock brat and a bunch of her other lesbian anarchist friends got together and started a phone sex line with the support of a slightly wealthy, eccentric lesbian who liquidated a bunch of investments so that she could put her money into "woman owned businesses." These women wanted to "put the power and money of porn back in the hands of women." They wanted to exploit the men for a change, and they joked about all their pathetic customers, spending hundreds of dollars just to jack off to the sound of a stranger's voice on the phone.

They all talked a big talk, but really they all hated it. They were all depressed and miserable and none of them wanted to admit that they felt just as degraded and exploited as their pimped out counterparts probably felt. And I have to admit, I didn't enjoy it myself at all. The woman I was dating was basically on call 24 hours a day and almost all our dates were interrupted by lengthy monotonous calls. I was amazed that a man could stay on the phone for over an hour jacking off and I was constantly amazed that the outcome of my date in Ohio was dependant on the orgasm of some wanker in Minnesota or Illinois. "Cum already!!! I wanna eat dinner!" It was surreal.

So I don't fool myself, I know that porn entails exploitation. However, I still indulge occasionally. I'm a cheapskate though and tend to stick to the free internet sites. I also usually stick to the men-on-men porn. I haven't found enough real lesbian porn to even bother with, though I hear it exists. Mera and I talk about creating our own lesbian porn empire, but we've yet to take action. One of these days...

What about you? Porn? Erotica? Smut? Anything? Any deep intellectual thoughts on the subject? Any lowbrow, gutter-type comments? I want to know what other lesbians think about porn.

7 comments:

heather said...

bah, no quiz? me sad.

i have no deep thoughts on porn. my non-deep thoughts are that it can be both delightful and reprehensible. also, i have heard stories like your ex's a few times. it's sad how in the end, it never works out, at least not without killing the souls of its workers a little (or a lot).

Tina-cious.com said...

I love porn -- admittedly it's straight porn that does it for me -- not sure if it's the motion or WHAT...

... I love porn. Bring it on. :)

xtube.com is awesome.

I agree this is another thing we feel we have to qualify -- like liking Walmart. LOL

south carolina girl said...

i feel bad looking at images mostly, for exploitation like mentioned. reading makes me feel better cause at least i have to use my brain more and it's not real people doing it, just people in my head. and also the person who created it had to use her (or his) brain. still emotional though. i've cried trying to read before, who knows why.

Zoe said...

I like porn. I like girl-girl porn, and I like guy-guy porn. Throw in a little S&M and it's even better.

Jen said...

I like real people porn and general nakedness. I always thought it was normal. Our house and every house I babysat at had a copy of the Joy of Sex...I thought it was some sort of manual you got as a wedding gift...you know, this is how you do it.

Unbalanced said...

i like porn too. on occasion and as long as it doesn't replace real life sex. i prefer girl-girl porn and i agree it is hard to find true lesbian porn. i don't really want to watch to straight girls have sex.

Grumpy Granny said...

I like porn, too. I really enjoyed the 1 month that I paid for the Cyber-Dyke site. I also really liked that it was totally easy to cancel a membership. There were some REALLY hot women on there and the videos...well, talk about cha-ching! I also like straight porn, too. Like Tina, I think it's the motion...but guy on guy doesn't do a thing for me. I think maybe because I really don't care for anal sex, I don't know. It's nice if you can find something with a little bit of a plot, but for that, we have to turn to the L-Word! ;-)

xtube.com? I'll have to check that out!

Thanks, T.

GG