I was just rereading that last post on control and domination in the context of strap-on sex, and I realized I left out something very important. Without trust, none of what I wrote about would be possible. All the throwings down and poundings, etc -- those are all powered by trust.
I trust Mera with my body completely. She's proven herself to be a good steward of my body, but deeper than that, there's something powerful in our chemistry that seems to hold us in a magical place of mutual trust that has been there from the beginning. I don't quite understand it, I just appreciate and enjoy it.
I think it's this level of trust that allows me to relax, to open my body up, to hand myself to her on a platter and say "here you go, I'm all yours." Despite the dominance, I know she'll stop if I say stop, she'll slow down if I say slow down. I know she'll listen. And that's the secret behind her so-called dominance: she only dominates me with my permission. Dominance and submission between us is a kind of play that we only take seriously because we want to.
Regardless, none of it would be possible for me without trust.
And by the way, what happened to all the comments??? You guys were rocking on those first two posts, but now it's nothing but crickets and tumbleweeds! Doesn't anybody have anything to say about any of this? Even an "ewwwww," or a "wow," or a "boooooring?" Nothing? Really?